What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced
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- Mar 1998
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When read with a caring adult, this book can be the first step in bringing children of divorce toward much-needed emotional healing.
Because it is often hard for children to express feelings, fears, and questions, it is easy to assume they are adjusting and coping with their parents' divorce--when instead they may feel guilty that they are somehow to blame for the break-up.
William L. Coleman provides an honest, understandable, and simple way for concerned adults to broach discussion of this sensitive subject with the children they care about, covering such crucial areas as:
- The uniqueness and importance of each child
- Reassurance of the continued love of both parents for the child
- Encouragement to talk openly of painful subjects
- Ways to show love to both parents, even the one who no longer lives with the child.
"We all know that divorce is a difficult matter for adults to understand. Why then, do we expect children to understand this complicated tragedy? William Coleman's 1998 book on how to help a child understand what is happening in the family when his parents are divorcing is worth another look in 2003. What Children Need to Know When Parents Get Divorced discusses over 40 different topics related to a child's view of divorce. Coleman says the only way to help children understand divorce is to encourage them to ask questions. Some of those questions might include, 'Doesn't Daddy/Mommy love me anymore? Was I bad? Where will he/she live? Do I have to change schools? Does Mommy like her boyfriend better than Daddy? When I grow up, will I get married?' These are tough questions that worry children. Coleman says there are several basic thoughts that children need to know about their parents divorce. First, the divorce is not the child's fault. Second, it's okay to ask your parents all kinds of questions. Third, life will get better as time passes. Finally, the most important thing is that children should be reassured that divorced parents still love them and that 'even good parents get divorced.' In his book, Coleman doesn't assign a moral opinion to the act of divorce. He simply offers a book that will help parents, teachers, pastors, and other leaders understand and work through the emotional trauma that children suffer through divorce." - Women's Ministries Today, April-June 2003